From: kumiko yvonne watanabe (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Thu May 31 2007 - 22:33:21 CDT
>I don't like five oclock shadow. I am undergoing serious
>electrolysis. But I have been around a number of people with
>serious five oclock shadow. Did I tell them so. No I did not.
>I chose to accept them and treat them like human beings, and
>accept and affirm them as who they are. It's what's inside that
>counts.
Joan, I respect what you are saying, and that is your perspective
and how you think and how you feel. I accpet that. This works
in safe venues.
However in mainstream venues, your opinion is not shared with
most of that community. To mainstream, a five o'clock shadow is
NOT acceptable.
Yes, there are alot of ggs that don't wear makeup and look
like they just got up or having the 'rags'. The thing here
is that in mainstream the ggs that look like they just got
up, or are wearing no make-up and just wearing a tee and jeans,
are STILL acceptable as females by the people that are around
them.
We as transgendered, M to F crossdressers, don't have that
advantage of the physical appearence that ggs have. Even the
ggs that look like males, its their COMPORTMENT that is a big
factor in how that appearence is accepted or rejected as a
'male in female clothes' than a female. I would say that many
of us don't do the comportment part very well, and we can and
are easily 'read' as a male.
Being read may not be a problem for you, but in mainstream, and
in most of those in that community, being read as a male in female
clothes and not in any way behaving as a female, is NOT something
that is very well accepted. Most will accept you as you dress,
but there are those in society that will take a big offense to
how you look and will take action against you.
You can address the 'freedom of speech' but you cannot force
this freedom on anyone else. They have the freedom to speak
against you if they dis-agree and for right now, in mainstream,
there are those that will speak against you.
This is one reason why being presentable as a female is important
in mainstream venues, and not so much as safe venues.
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