From: Joan (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Thu May 31 2007 - 22:58:54 CDT
>>From a purely sociological perspective, we owe it to our TG
>>sisters to put our best face forward to the general public.
>>The general public already misunderstands what we are about.
True, and we do that by carrying ourselves in a gentle and
loving manner. A great looking person acting rudely ruins the
day. But a nice "ugly in the world's eyes" person is truly
beautiful.
>The principle behind all of our behavior, dress, and restroom
>guidlines is being considerate to others.
I'm sure it is on the surface. but the way it is handled often
makes me wonder.
>Those who say "f*ck you, I'll dress the way I want, get used
>to it" are just being selfish.
I doubt anyone is thinking the f word concerning this. I think
unconcerned people are an extreme rarity at DLV. But what about
the genderqueer, and genderf*** people in the world.
I think they too deserve a place at the table, and an equal
one at that.
>Consideration of others is part of what we learn as we grow
>up and learn to get along with people. It shouldn't be that
>foreign a concept to anybody who's been around a number of
>decades.
Very true.
>Even these complaints, which some consider to be petty, about
>things like beard shadow and no makeup, are most definitely
>related to consideration of others, or in this case the lack
>of it.
I think I must respectfully disagree.
I think consideration most applies to the inner matters of the
heart. I work hard to not judge a person by their looks, but
by how they treat me. I generally haven't been treated
inconsiderately by these folks who may be appearing differently
from the way society wants them to be. I don't see beard shadow
or lack of makeup as inconsiderate. I do see rudeness and anger
and lack of hygiene as inconsiderate.
Let's not judge the book by it's cover, but take the time to
look inside. A pleasant surprise awaits.
With love and consideration, Joan here in LV.
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