From: Diana (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Sat Feb 24 2007 - 13:00:12 CST
Year after year we have questions of whether a hotel or restaurant is
'friendly' or not. Living here all the years that I have and seeing all
the things I have over those years I think it's very safe for me to say
that all of the places in town can be considered friendly..... within
reason of course. No one will kick you out of their establishment if
they read you so long as you are not orchestrating some sort of
commotion. Believe me, an obvious guy in a dress is way down the list
of things they see on a daily basis.
Bathroom issues in these places is another issue. If you are totally
passable then of course you probably won't have any problems using the
ladies room when needed but as we all know our group is not totally
passable. It is not an insult to you if you are stopped by someone from
using the ladies room if you are spotted, it is more likely it is a
protection for the other guests using that facility. How is the
security staff supposed to know in that split second if you are a
serious transgendered person or some pervert out for a cheap thrill?
Without checking with the organizers first I would assume that they
pre-arrange or ask permission for the group regarding restroom
facilities at the smaller restaurants for example, casinos are a
different story. I did when I organized Carluccio's and since we don't
go there anymore I will now say that the arrangements for the back room
bathroom was the only way we got in there. This is why there was so
much of a problem for me hen that one group sat at the bar, didn't eat
with the group, and insisted on using the main bathroom even after I
asked them to use the assigned one. I don't look at this as a slur on
who we are, I understand the need to provide a comfortable environment
for their other patrons. This is also why we are reminded in emails
that we need to do what's best for the group overall regarding dress
guidelines. All it takes is one person to draw negative attention to
the group and that's not fair.
I think it is our consideration of each other that is paramount and not
an establishment's consideration of us as a group. If we police
ourselves it will result in an incident-free good time for all. The
places we go to are happy to have our business and I don't believe they
are on guard looking for an altercation unless we provide the means. I
know this may spark a few comments about why should we be singled out
etc. but let's face it, we are a standout as a group and it has always
been my feeling to err on the side of caution when I am out whether
alone or with some friends.
If you use your head you'll have no problem doing whatever you want to
do.
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