From: annie (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Thu Feb 08 2007 - 22:41:19 CST
>There is a lot of "not to do_s."
I think there's a lot of misunderstanding here, and you are not the
only one. Those "not to dos" quite possibly don't apply to you.
Let's talk about those to whom these "not to dos" are directed.
They are a small minority within our populace.
The vast majority of our people know how to dress and behave in
mainstream public and they do it. They don't need any admonitions
to do it and they appreciate it when the others do so as well.
Those to whom these guidelines are directed fall into two classes:
1. Those who honestly and genuinely don't know what is appropriate to
wear where and when.
These are the ones who ask for more and more detail as to what is to be
worn to what. (We didn't write dress guidelines so we could dictate, we
wrote it because it was asked for.) They have consistently asked for
more and more detail sooner. They are the ones who send in photos for a
fashion critique. They are the ones who will book an instructional
makeover with Steph or Amy. These may be this year's newbees, but will
be next year's Big Sisters!
2. Those who seek attention, saying "f*ck you" to the rules.
We're hoping that these types will get the hint and seek their
attention elsewhere. Most of them have.
>While I can abide with most of them, even lower heels. YUCK
Hmmmm ... ya know, I'm quite familiar with all of the dress
documents and I'm having a hard time remembering where any
directive of "lower heels" or anything like that appears.
One misunderstanding that seems to be out there is that there's some
kind of a mandate for all attendees to wear more conservative and more
casual styles. This was never intended.
The one term that does appear, over and over and over, is
"appropriate", in particular when we're talking about general
public settings.
"Appropriate" works many ways. For example, it's very "appropriate"
to wear something like a miniskirt, fishnets, and 6" heels to the
Night Of The Soiled Doves or the Alternative Bar Crawl. (Hmmmm ...
those two seem to be missing from your litany.)
>How are over 100 cross-dressers not going to _GATHER_ for:
>As you indicated, more than 2 would be "noticed" no matter what their
>gender.
I think there's another misunderstanding here. Nobody is attempting to
make the group invisible. We realize that is impossible. What we are
trying to do is to encourage everybody to help present the group to the
public in as positive a light as possible. This includes, among other
things, refraining from acting in a manner, intentionally or not, that
draws unnecessary attention.
The one principle that forms the foundation of all of our behavior,
dress, and restroom guidelines is this Golden Rule of DLV. That is that
the purpose of DLV is to have fun, but not to have fun at the expense of
others.
Being considerate to others is what this is all about.
>Sign me a little confused. roni
Maybe this will un-confuse you a bit. On our follow-up survey we asked
what the attendees thought of the increased attention to behavior,
dress, and restroom issues. 88% of the responses last year supported the
current level of enforcement. 11% understood why it had to be. Only one
did not support it.
I interpret this to mean that the overwhelming majority of the DLV
attendees want to have a fun and hassle-free vacation without a few
attention-seekers spoiling it for everybody.
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