From: kumiko yvonne watanabe (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Tue Jun 01 2004 - 13:30:22 CDT
We also have to consider HRC's side.
That evening, I occasionally noticed some of the staff watching over us,
esp a asian girl who I think was the coordinator from the HRC side, who
collected our 'meal ticket' and who also was a 'bathroom guard' when I
went. I talked to her for a short time, and she was very gracious and
pleasent, and I didn't get any a hit of any type of 'tranny' attitude of
me, from her at all. If she was the coordinator, its understandable of
her concern and worry about our group and the size of our group.
Their looking over us was more to making sure everyone was being
serviced during the meal.
Trying to see it from her side, which was HRC mgnt, I can understand her
dilema of balancing and trying to keep the general public and our large
group happy so that there are no complaints, problems, or situations
from either side. I think she was trying her best to keep us happy.
Her solution was low key, and to me a compromise. Having a not soo
visable gg standing by the restroom, being courteous and helpful, and
yet filtering who goes in, is so much better than some male or male
worker or some male beefcake no-brain male security guard standing in
front of women's bathroom, giving us the 'once over tranny look' doing
the same thing... or telling us to use a restroom far and away from the
general public.
My own experience was they never stopped me NOR said or did anything
negative to prevent or limit me from using the restrooms; and personally
I wasn't bothered or offended too much by it. In some ways I was more
positive and glad they did what they did, and felt a little bit more at
ease rather than worrying about a potential bad interaction with a real
gg in the restroom. HRC if anything - the bottom line, still let us use
the restroom of our own choice.
This was a very mainstream location and sizable event, considering how
many of us atttended. I'm personally impressed that HRC actually
allowed our relatively good sized group to have dinner there. Being
mainstream and a popular well known resturant, families and all types
are also welcomed into that resturant. We have to realize that they
(mgnt) also has to consider and defuse any potential situations that
creates any form of 'bad' karma or goodwill to anyone who enters the
resturant. They want everyone to have a good experience at their
resturant, and want to return to eat there.
Kids, rednecks, rude teens and as*h*le 'tranny-fobic' grown-ups are
just some parameters that has to dealt with (mgnt and us) when a group
of 2 or more of us go to a mainstream public place. Going to a place
that is w/o kids is like putting the ole 'safety' blanket out, like
going to safer trangendered venues.
If it was a complaint, and HRC mgnt had to deal with it. Its NOT HRC's
fault. I'd blame the one who complained and not HRC. HRC had the
un-fortunate problem to find some form of workable solution which is
hard to please everyone 100%.
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