From: Rosada Delano (dlvdisc@geekbabe.com)
Date: Sat Jul 31 2010 - 23:58:13 CDT
>>Again, please do this at the activity. Please don't wait
>>until after the fact.
Was the offender a new gal or a previous attendee?
If the latter...well shame on her. But if it was a new attendee,
well then perhaps pulling her aside away from the others and
discretely informing her that she is not dressed to code
specifications.
If I was the offender I'd like to know. Please ladies, don't
let me go somewhere where I am not dressed appropriately. We're
all here to support each other. I think if it is done tactfully...
no one should get the feathers ruffled. And if they do, well as
the saying goes.."Oh, well!"
If this problem becomes an real hot button issue for the next
DLV, why can't we solve it by establishing a small group of
ladies who can handle the offending lady and gently tell her
she needs to go back to her hotel and change. How hard is that?
That way the task doesn't fall on just one person. More power in
numbers. In fact, the volunteer of the activity can be part of
the group that "advises" the assumed guilty person.
There might even be a standardized check-list of minimum
requirements at each event that the outfit in question must
meet in order to pass muster. If it doesn't.....the lady earns
a trip back to the hotel to pick out another dress. This all done
without embarrassing her. We can call it "she spilled something
on her dress and had to go and change into a new one" incident.
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